WHY AM I HERE?

Snapshot

Let’s take a moment to capture a snapshot of your current feelings about your relationship. Right now, are you inclined to stay or go?

Obviously, the decision to stay or go is complicated, and it’s not unusual to find it difficult to answer one way or the other at this stage. Relationships are dynamic, and when we are facing this dilemma, our feelings can change from moment to moment.

This snapshot is not about providing a definitive answer but about beginning to explore and acknowledge how you currently feel. By acknowledging whether you lean towards staying or going, you actively engage in self-awareness. This awareness is important throughout the course, to improve your understanding and guide you in the right direction.

Let’s capture this snapshot, reflect on your current stance, and move on to the first exercise.

First Step

A critical part of the journey is understanding what it is you are trying to achieve – your goal. The clearer you are in your ability to visualise and verbalise this, the easier it will be for you to confidently move towards it.

There are two elements to this: the first is what you want to achieve from doing this course, and the second relates to what you want to achieve in your relationship. Let’s start with the first of these questions: why are you here on this course? The second will be looked at in detail in lesson two.

Reflecting on why you are here is a crucial step in unlocking the transformative potential of this course. Consider what has motivated you to take this course. What underlying factors have prompted you to seek guidance? Has something specific caused you to take action now, or is this the culmination of things?

Take a moment to think about what you hope to gain from this experience. Are you seeking clarity? Are you looking for personal growth and understanding? Perhaps you’re aiming to make informed decisions about the future of your relationship. By being clear about your intentions, you set the stage for a purpose-driven journey towards positive change.

Finally, consider the dynamics of your relationship by reflecting on both the challenges and strengths. Identify aspects that aren’t working and are prompting a desire for change, whilst at the same time, acknowledge the positive elements. Recognising what is working is just as important as focusing on what isn’t working, as it provides a foundation for building upon those strengths.

Use the worksheet to help you capture your thoughts.

The purpose of this introductory exercise is to help you clearly articulate what you want to get from this course and to identify the challenges in your relationship that you want to address while recognising the aspects that contribute positively to your relationship’s foundation.